I wasn't aware I'd given any weight loss advice, but glad it helped =) I meant to comment that you looked as if you'd lost a few pounds last night but never quite got around to it. I guess culturally men don't comment on other men's weight loss.... ;)
I'm surprised that you, with your open exploration of the feminine side of your personality has issues in this area. I've said before that I don't really understand your need to dress as a woman (respect it, yes, understand it, no) but I think maybe this post takes me a step closer. If it's not too personal a question, does your position on showing emotion and emotional needs change when you are being Elaine?
I ask because I personally have no issue openly showing emotion (and music's a great trigger/outlet for that), or my emotional needs. I don't really subscribe to the traditional male role, except when it suits me to do so, and wonder if perhaps you become Elaine at least partially because you cannot express these things dressed in jeans and a shirt?
Even in fully masculine mode though, a partner is a partner, and that means mutual support. I bet the hardest of hard men has his moments in private with his partner when the guards come down. And his partner is probably pleased and honoured to be the one he does that with. After all, if he doesn't then the guards become permanent and a tough shell isn't an attractive thing on either a man or a woman.
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Date: 2009-03-01 09:15 am (UTC)I'm surprised that you, with your open exploration of the feminine side of your personality has issues in this area. I've said before that I don't really understand your need to dress as a woman (respect it, yes, understand it, no) but I think maybe this post takes me a step closer. If it's not too personal a question, does your position on showing emotion and emotional needs change when you are being Elaine?
I ask because I personally have no issue openly showing emotion (and music's a great trigger/outlet for that), or my emotional needs. I don't really subscribe to the traditional male role, except when it suits me to do so, and wonder if perhaps you become Elaine at least partially because you cannot express these things dressed in jeans and a shirt?
Even in fully masculine mode though, a partner is a partner, and that means mutual support. I bet the hardest of hard men has his moments in private with his partner when the guards come down. And his partner is probably pleased and honoured to be the one he does that with. After all, if he doesn't then the guards become permanent and a tough shell isn't an attractive thing on either a man or a woman.