I know exactly what you mean, I have really been caught like in many relationships: at times actually told I wasn't supposed to need hugs, comforting, emotional support. It's insane. It really is something you need to look for in a potential partner; I suspect you are more likely to find someone who realises that men have emotional needs as much as women do in fandom than outside it, but even there it isn't 100%.

When I'm back in Glasgow, if you want to have a drink sometime, that would be good.