Thank you, I think that should be the main criteria too, and my doctor initially led me to believe that that was how he felt. "Functional in the gender you choose," was his ideal as I recall. Problem is that the system is being hellish narrow about the definition of gender, and requiring me to make a choice but not letting the choice be "all of the above".
And I think reading this that I misrepresent him a little. I think he'd like to be able to support me but he's putting himself in professional jeopardy by doing it as it is. And he said so.
However, I do think that it shows a lack of character to be putting pressure on a potentially vulnerable patient to conform by making an appeal like that. I do know that the last time he tried to put that kind of pressure on me, last May, I was very upset and quite angry. I felt that I was being pushed into a position that was wrong for me by someone who was supposed to be helping me. Now I'm just angry, even more so because I realise now just how wrong it was of him to try pressuring me then when I was still vulnerable.
I also realise now that he wouldn't have needed to try that tactic back then and I am actually stronger than I was.
But knitting isn't me, thanks, I'm not really interested in the things you can make with it. Although I could use a new Arran sweater; My mother made the one I have when she was having my brother and he's 28 this year. I'll think about that.
But I'm really looking forward to making a harp, even if it's half-made for me already. And I found a woodworking charity that has a workshop near where I work. I don't doubt that they'll let me use the facilities for a donation, and there'll be a wealth of experience there to learn from, so maybe the one after my next one will be all my own work.
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And I think reading this that I misrepresent him a little. I think he'd like to be able to support me but he's putting himself in professional jeopardy by doing it as it is. And he said so.
However, I do think that it shows a lack of character to be putting pressure on a potentially vulnerable patient to conform by making an appeal like that. I do know that the last time he tried to put that kind of pressure on me, last May, I was very upset and quite angry. I felt that I was being pushed into a position that was wrong for me by someone who was supposed to be helping me. Now I'm just angry, even more so because I realise now just how wrong it was of him to try pressuring me then when I was still vulnerable.
I also realise now that he wouldn't have needed to try that tactic back then and I am actually stronger than I was.
But knitting isn't me, thanks, I'm not really interested in the things you can make with it. Although I could use a new Arran sweater; My mother made the one I have when she was having my brother and he's 28 this year. I'll think about that.
But I'm really looking forward to making a harp, even if it's half-made for me already. And I found a woodworking charity that has a workshop near where I work. I don't doubt that they'll let me use the facilities for a donation, and there'll be a wealth of experience there to learn from, so maybe the one after my next one will be all my own work.